This is more of a curiousity item now. Since I wrote this, a lot of great things happened. In particular, I started going to raves, and this experience made me a much more balanced, happy, cute, healthy, creative, and self-sufficient person.

Go here for my current personal ad.


Whom Am I Looking For?

I have a dream. The dream is to find a partner, who would be willing to live and make love together, and also to do something interesting and creative together. I like all kinds of entertainment and I like to share them, but I do not mean it here. I mean sharing intellectual and artistic pursuits of each other, teaching each other, studying and creating together. If this sounds too non-standard from the viewpoint of, say, American culture... may be this means that we, queer people, still retain some difference from the mainstream :-)

I am pretty good in math and computer science, and also in some branches of philosophy, especially philosophy of science and Eastern philosophy. I can teach them, and I can learn these and other things.

I like when people share affection and tenderness and try to make life more bearable for each other. I like when people are trying hard to avoid hurting others.

Since I am gay, it would be better if my partner is a gay or bi man. On the other hand, I believe that it is great when gay and straight people can bend their preferences for the right person, provided that the truth is not hidden and everybody understands what is going on. I value my love stories with women and straight men very much indeed.

I am also fairly flexible in relationships. I respect both open and closed relations and think that people can agree on the rules and follow them. I used to be very much on the submissive side, but I am much more versatile now.


For those who care, I was born in Moscow, USSR on October 3, 1964. I never say that I am from Russia, I came from Soviet Union in 1989 fully believing (so stupid I was), that Soviet Union would exist longer than me. So I am a Soviet boy who used his chance to escape from the Communists. I do not know or understand the country which is there now. I definitely do not identify with that country - I never lived there. The country I am from is just a memory, for better or for worse.


I live in Cambridge and work and study in Waltham. This is essentially Boston, Massachusetts, United States. Here are some ways to reach me:

e-mail: bukatin@cs.brandeis.edu
For my telephone in Boston go to Mishka's home page